Stupid things about Tumblr: The text-response feature gives you a really, really small character-limit, so it’s really hard to convey actual thoughts with such a small textbox.

dimesonhereyes:

Yep.

I hate how one of the most-posted trans-sexual blogs out there is called “Dear cis people” and it’s basically just one where they post “Dear cis people: I don’t like it when you [insert action.]” How the hell does that make it “dear cis people”?

Holy fucking shit, Tumblr loves drawing invisible lines that don’t exist. You think everyone doing the action you’re accusing them of is cisgender? For that matter, I do a lot of the shit you claim is “so oppressing” and I’m an MtF (which gets a LOT more hate-shit than FtM by the way, and transgenders really get more shit than any other group - homosexual, racial minority, poor, etc.)

The reason they’re offending you is because they’re offensive people. It has nothing to do with their sexual orientation. In fact, all my cis friends are as open and supporting as fuck, and I’d appreciate it if you didn’t accuse them of being oppressors simply because one time, someone insulted you, and that person happened to be cisgender as well.

Fuck you, fuck your speech, fuck your text, fuck your entitlement complex, fuck your divisiveness and your invisible lines, but most importantly fuck your oppression complex. Continuing to refer to you with female pronouns even after you’ve said you prefer male ones is rude, yes. But that’s not oppression and I highly recommend to you an activity many refer to as Reading A Dictionary.

And actually, you’re not just annoying me. You’re doing a dis-service to the ENTIRE COMMUNITY by being a vocal minority that paints us in this “easily offended/confused/oppression complex” stereotype. So really, you’re not just annoying me, you’re giving me a bad name and a stupid reputation. 

Please allow me to hit you in the face with an eighteen-wheeler.

tumblrbot asked: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE INANIMATE OBJECT?

You know it, Tumblrbot.

It’s easier for me to break up with someone if they really fit society’s definition of ‘beauty.’ You know, the perfect magazine face and proportions and all that. ‘Cause then I can kinda see, oh ok, I dated her ‘cause she was cute, who wouldn’t? I mean, she is. Whereas, if she doesn’t fit the ‘magazine’ definition of beauty (and I use this term really cautiously, because when I like your personality I’ll find your physical body really attractive. I’ll even start to find people who look like you, attractive, regardless of whether I did before I knew you. There’s probably a special “-uality” term for this sort of thing, I don’t really care.)

I guess it’s sort of the, “oh, well it’s plain to see that I was initially attracted to you largely for your looks, who wouldn’t be, you’re hot” rather than “well now that I’m losing you I feel like an entire part of my personality/identity is gone and I don’t even know what’s up with this wow.”

And I look back at the girls I dated who I thought were incredibly attractive even before I knew them, and I think, meh. That was a nice relationship in some ways, I suppose. Kind of silly, though.
Then I think about the ones who, while I found them incredibly physically attractive once I knew them, they weren’t The Most Attractive for me before I even knew their names. And I really, really regret the fact that they’re no longer in my life. ‘Cause, I mean … I don’t know. I suppose, the image of the perfect magazine girl, the movie star face, all that, you kind of start on this “I should be attracted to that” footing, and then go from there, and it takes something actively discouraging you from being attracted. But the ones who don’t look like your favorite actress or a Playboy model, it takes something special for you to be attracted to them. They need a personality trait or common interest or something like that.

I don’t know this is an incredibly stupid post, and watch as someone takes it to mean “magazine girls aren’t real girls and don’t have personalities.” But that’s not anything like what I’m saying, and if you try to call me bigoted for telling you how my libido works then you’d better call all gay men misogynistic for not liking women.

Welp.

Currently the only thing keeping me alive is the thought that it would be rude to my landlord to skip out on her, and that most suicide methods could either a) easily fail or b) traumatize innocent bystanders.

Also the fact that I still don’t have a will written and my family will give me an incredibly over-the-top religious funeral filled with the same cult superstitition that oppressed and fucked with my subconscious my entire childhood and continues to do shit to me. And my hatred of Christianity is so strong that it overrides my desire to kill myself until after a will is written, expressly forbidding any of this.

I hate stuff.

I don’t really understand my sexuality at all. Firstly: I’m 20 years old. Isn’t my sexuality supposed to be more-or-less established by now? I mean, I would quite honestly like to be gay (weird as that sounds I know but it’s complicated) but you’re either gay or not right?

I guess there’s the whole thing you read a lot, “if you’re bi it doesn’t mean 50/50, you could only be attracted to kissing guys but sex with girls” or something like that. I don’t know.

But lately I’ve been finding guys cute, which is weird. I had the cutest waiter last night. (I was kind of getting a gay reading off him also, and was kind of glad for that, and I have no idea how to react to the fact that I just typed that sentence.)

Idk rambling here a bit I guess. I guess, I’m so uneducated on ANYTHING sexual, especially with 18 years of hyper-repressive “don’t even think about sex or you’ll go to hell” religious oppression I don’t know SHIT. I don’t even know how gay people HAVE sex. I mean, yes, I am quite familiar with anal sex and oral sex and the like. But I have no idea if that’s common, or whatever. I read a lot of gay guys saying they’re really not into anal sex. So I guess past making out I have no idea what is common for two men to do behind closed doors.

I mean, saying “They all have buttsex” sounds to me to be kind of silly; just because most porn does buttsex doesn’t mean that’s typical. I mean, most straight porn involves lots of things that nobody really does.

Actually, most porn in general is downright repulsive. Agh. There are so many old women in there >.< and I don’t mean the granny-fetish types, I mean the 40-year-old-trying-to-pretend-she’s-“Barely Legal” aaaggghhhh old people trying to look young really kill arousal A LOT.

crazy-:

We’re trying to promote awareness and love, not spread hate. When we say things like that, we give them no reason to try and understand us. I understand that you get angry and riled up and sometimes do shitty things, but seriously?

I’ll never understand it :/

Yeah, ‘cause apparently … being cisgender makes you a bad person?

Frikkin’ Tumblr Justice logic.

le sigh

fuck you libido fuck you body fuck you sexual/personal identity

Let me start this off by saying, if I was gay, it would make a lot of things easier. So, in some ways, I do kind of wish I was just full-in gay, or just bisexual, or something. It’s at least POSSIBLE to have a homosexual relationship, even if it’s not easy in America today. It’s not even near as easy to have a sexual reassignment operation, and I would never do that anyway.

First off, quite frankly, it’s far too expensive and my insurance would not cover it.
Secondly, I’m a massive suicide risk. No seriously, I contemplate it on a near-daily basis, and quite frankly all the hardships that a reassignment procedure would bring, would a) probably push me over the edge, and b) even if they weren’t the cause, it would still be a massive waste to spend all that time and effort and money and hardship (‘cause publicly trans* folk are really one of the last groups in society that it’s acceptable to discriminate against) just to off myself in a few months.

ANYWAY fuckall I had a point and got distracted there. POINT: If I was just gay, big fucking deal. I’d move somewhere I could be openly gay, obviously; that’s one thing gay people face that straight people don’t: The necessity for an accepting community. But I’d get to that place, I’d set up my life, I’d maybe look for a boyfriend, I’d work, I’d have fun with life, all that shit. Maybe I would get a boyfriend, maybe I wouldn’t. That’s not what’s important. It’s important because it could work. It would do perfectly well and good. Nothing would be wrong with that, nothing would be unattainable. Nothing would be impossible.

But me? There’s basically no way I will ever be female, and this is really hard for me to take sometimes. I KNOW HOW FUCKING STUPID THAT SOUNDS. Trust me. I hear it every day. It’s the stupidest thing ever. I will never put on a bra, or clip a pencil in my shirt in between my breasts. I will never shave my legs and wear a skirt. I will never just lie in the sun taking comfort in my feminity.

I suppose it’s really hard to describe WHY I want to be female. FTMs at least have an excuse, there are a number of advantages, both physical and sociological (or whateverthefuck word goes there) that come with being male in today’s world. I really can’t describe it, any more than someone can describe why they like pine trees more than oak trees. I just don’t feel at home in my male body. I never really have. And I really can’t express why, any more than a straight man can express WHY he doesn’t feel attracted to other men.

It’s just hard, knowing that my one deep desire will never be met. I can cross-dress, I can make blogs where I identify myself as female, but I can never BE female. (Well, I can, but I just covered why that’s not on the table.)

lgbtlaughs:

My Latin professor told me that the only thing he has against homosexuality is that you’re mixing a Greek prefix with a Latin root. [via quidnuncphilosopher]

(via yossariansworld)

I guess I just look at the invisible line a lot of trans* people draw, where “sex” and “gender” and “genitalia” and all those have distinct meanings.

And, hey, they’re probably right. But the people they bitch at don’t know that, and honestly there’s no reason to assume they know it. That’s like cussing out a random passerby on the street for not knowing what sin(2pi) is. He’s hardly being insensitive to mathemeticians by not knowing it. Gender dysphoria’s kind of a specific thing, and if you personally haven’t experienced it or had a friend who is public about his experiences with it, you probably haven’t heard of it.

It’s like getting insanely enraged when people ask you how lesbians have sex. Don’t yell “Oppressor/intolerant!” at them, just politely explain it to them because they clearly don’t know.

I, for one, am trans or trans* or gender-dysphoric or whatever you think the proper label is, and quite honestly I’m confused by all the lables the trans community throws around. For one, I still dont really understand how putting an asterisk (*) at the end of the word ‘trans’ changes the meaning at all. I think a lot of our community goes overboard with labels and forgets real issues. I don’t give a shit what word people refer to me with, so long as they are politely recognizing and validating my existence/identity with it.

And now I kind of feel bad about that rant I posted the other day about how trans* people who got really uptight about labels bugged me.

I mean, it’s true, they do bug me. But I feel like maybe I went a bit overboard in insulting them in the rant.

Eh, doesn’t bug me enough to delete that rant, though. ‘Cause I still think it’s pretty accurate, even if a bit rude.

It quite honestly annoys the heck out of me when other trans people get insanely uptight/bitchy about gender labels.

I mean, if they mean one thing to you, great. But seriously. If someone asks you “Are you a boy or a girl?” it’s pretty fucking obvious what they mean. They aren’t trying to say, “You have to identify as either A or B in our gender binary.” They aren’t saying “Your personal identity is irrelevant and if you were born with a penis you have to like it.”

They’re saying, “What fucking genitalia do you have?” When you answer the simple “M/F?” question with a multi-paragraph bitchfit about how they’re oppressors, you’re just being stupid. If you need help, allow me to give directions: Pull down your pants. Now look at your genitalia. If it is long and dangly, you should reply “male.” Otherwise, “female” is the proper response.

And THEN you’re welcome to tell them that even though you were born with a male body, you identify as female, or your personal identity is really fairly fluid, or that even though you identify as male and enjoy having a male body you want to fulfill female stereotypes in your personal life, or that honestly you aren’t really comfortable identifying as either gender. But that’s not the question they asked, so please stop pretending it is.

You’re giving all of us transgenders a bad name as a bunch of easily-offended blowhards, and it’s not like we had a super-good, respected high standing in society to begin with. If someone asks me, “Are you a boy or a girl?” I answer that I’m a boy. If it’s relevant to the discussion at hand, I’ll also tell them that I’m transgender. If they seem interested in the conversation, perhaps I’ll delve more into the intricacies. But I won’t instantly scream “OPPRESSOR!!!!1!!1!” when they say I’m either male or female. Because that’s kind of true.

Extremely rare cases of (for lack of better terms) physically genderless or hermaphroditic individuals excepted, of course.